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Nobita you are treating A HUGE TOPIC + as always, in a very, thought-provoking: おめでとう With my first university degree in psychology + because I wanted to be a Catholic priest who helps others, I'm "particularly" interested in this topic: I'm, now, 69 years old + divorced with 3 children + 5 grandchildren - so far. (Ha! Ha!) Michelangelo's 1512 painting featured on the Sistine Chapel's ceiling (Incidentally, Japanese Catholics paid for the renovation of the Sistine Chapel. :D) illustrates God reaching out to man + Man reaching out to God. It's THE MOST POWERFUL PSYCHOLOGICAL IMAGE of "reaching out". An autistic person  is TOO AFRAID TO REACH OUT - FEARING REJECTION. When a person suffers A SEVERE SETBACK (divorce, death of a loved one, lost of his/her job) will "normally" go into A REGRESSIVE STATE - for a time - in order to "regroup". It is MUCH EASIER when their community is supportive like that of the First Nations + the Inuit/Eskimo. THANK GOD there are GOOD PEOPLE - often religiously motivated - who understand THE NEED to help each other reach out: helping others keeps us away from ひきこも. :D HELPING OTHERS IS LIFE-AFFIRMINIG: it "reaffirms" THE VALUE OF OUR LIFE + that of THE OTHER; it VITALIZES us. REACHING OUT TO OTHERS reminds me of the "poignant" story of a childless Quebec couple from Canada who went to where Mother Theresa in India> She was in a hall for the dying who had come from the street. Mother Theresa asked them: "WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU ARE YOU DOING HERE? "A child, you want", she said, "you can have that child by the door who just came in and no other." She was a tall, EMACIATED Indian girl: TODAY, she is one of THE MOST ATTRACTIVE, tall, young LADY with lovely, long black hair + very beautiful dark eyes that you'd ever meet. LOVE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE. The other point I want to make is FORGIVENESS. We need to FORGIVE OURSELVES + OTHERS in order to give ourselves + others A SECOND, A THIRD, ... CHANCE. When I was at Vancouver's SPACIOUS, Roman-Colosseum-looking LIBRARY in the Summer of 2007, I realized - after a while - that Japanese families were hiring private detectives to "spy" on their daughters so when they call them + ask what they have been doing, they know if they're lying or not: I could NOT believe it at first. (Ha! Ha!) ALSO, many Asian parents will give their university children whatever they want (a car, a condo, ...) "PROVIDING" they DO WELL academically. THE parental MESSAGE TO THEIR CHILD (in whom they have heavily invested their ego, THEIR HONOUR) is DO NOT LET US DOWN: you "must" do well or we will be disappointed in you. This puts TREMENDOUS PRESSURE on their child because it comes with THE "IMPLIED" THREAT of "emotional neglect". [To my knowledge, the Vietnamese believe in their children + leave them alone  which is THE BEST WAY. :D] For those who canNOT possible satisfy THE HIGH EXPECTATIONS OF THE PARENT, their response is to "withdraw" into the safe world of Hikikomori. Parents need to "LOVE their children - UNCONDITIONALLY" FOR THEM TO FLOURISH. It's IMPORTANT for the Gov't to remind parents of this. IT'S CLEAR: children "need" to be loved REGARDLESS of their ability or level of success. Children who are loved "will" find their way + hopefully - providing the economic conditions allow - become financially independent + contribute - in their own way - to making society A HAPPIER PLACE - FOR ALL. :D Ken, Toronto, CANADA